Although my Book brings clarity and closure around my disability, in my personal life, life hasn’t changed. The book hasn’t changed attitudes.
My Book teaches me many valuable lessons. We have to know who we are and be okay with what we do, regardless of other people’s thinking on what we do. To stay emotionally well, we must care less about the people who care less about us.
If we meet with success we should accept that we have and we mustn’t feel bad. In the book I talk about believing I would end up going to the grave without knowing about my disability. My Book outlines just how powerful the universe is.
Both my Book and my experiences have taught me that it’s okay to be proud of what I have achieved. For the first time I am standing tall. Now others must reconcile.
It has also taught me that it is okay to care when it matters that it’s okay to care about those who care about us. Caring less ensures my sanity. For those who don’t care, or don’t choose to make a difference, then it’s okay for us to let go. We mustn’t own or carry other people’s guilt.
Doing our best means our best will get better. We will also get to live a more peaceful life when we care about the people that matter and not the people who suck the life out of us. It’s okay to care where appropriate.
For the first time, my Book has given me my life, my sanity and an altogether better life for knowing about my disability – ‘we should celebrate other people’s success as if it were our own’ – not to implies we have a problem and will struggle to find and meet our own success.
That is genuinely part of the problem. Others need to be happy for us and be okay with what we do. If the shoe were on the other foot they would expect nothing less.
For anyone interested in reading and purchasing my book Cerebral Palsy: ‘A Story’ you can purchase it through @RedDoorBooks or through the following links amzn.to/2qrpiy8 – UK or amzn.to/2WPE2Vy – US.