Writing a book isn’t easy, particularly when you know what you’re writing helps you, but potentially isn’t something others close will accept.
I remember watching a documentary about Lily Allen, who was particularly blunt about her experiences, and her explaining in the documentary that her book didn’t go down well with her family. I have nothing to apologise for.
It was a book that needed to be written, so that I could come to understand and know about my disability for the first time, for me to become familiar with my struggles in the way they happened, growing up without knowing about my disability.
My book, Cerebral Palsy: A Story ‘Finding the Calm after the Storm’ is a non-judgmental, account of my life, finding out at the age of 46 that I had cerebral palsy and autism at 56. As I continued to work through my experiences, starting in the early years, the book in its entirety, has helped me bring acceptance and closure, where as a child I struggled with both.
I write sensitively in a way that brings clarity on some very difficult years. As authors, we must think about how we write and then if it is a problem for others, it is their problem, not ours. We shouldn’t feel bad about speaking our truth, as long as what we’re writing shows sensitivity, understanding, and our words come from the heart.
Finding out there was a diagnosis at 2 and not knowing I had cerebral palsy until I was 46 and autism until I was 56, has made acceptance of what has happened to me over the years virtually impossible.