Responsibility & closure

Having worked on my book for 3 years, outlining my experiences as they happened and leaving no stone un-turned, I am still left with a sense of foreboding.

I didn’t get my chance to have my say on my disability and the hardships I’ve endured. I could write another book putting a different slant on my experiences, and I would still have the same foreboding. I write about my experiences, so that I may have acceptance, but closure is something I will never have.

We all have something that we deal with, and yes, we don’t go to school to be a parent, or understand how we work through our issues enough to help our children, but accepting responsibility and wanting to, is the first step.

As a child how do you reconcile those close not caring enough to give you the tools you need to be able to function in your own normal. As others turns the pages of my book, it becomes an insightful account of a life lived, an understanding of that life, and a motivational guide on how each of us can become better people through our experiences.

As the author of the book, I turn the pages and the sense of foreboding is clear. There are two things missing. An acceptance, and responsibility from others that any wrong has been done here, therefore I have no closure.


15 Mar, 2020

2 thoughts on “Responsibility & closure

  1. It would have been fantastic if my parents had acknowledged what they did, but they always blamed their troubles on each other.

    AA talks about acceptance but it’s something I’ve had a very hard time with. It took me a long time to realize that just because I accept something doesn’t mean I have to like it.

    They never taught me life skills so it’s no wonder I kept screwing up badly. I’m trying to learn how to do the right thing now, but it’s hard when nobody has shown you how.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, it would. Without the life skills, it can be difficult, but not impossible to understand how to change things.

      But either through our successful and not so successful experiences, it is possible to find out how. Like me, you owe it to yourself to bring closure on your experiences, regardless of how bad you were parented.

      You cannot change your past, or even your parents, but your experiences as a child and in the teenage years are your parents’ responsibility. Don’t own those.

      Living or not, your parents are still accountable and responsible. That will never change. But sometimes we must accept the inevitable and find a different way to think and bring closure if you can.

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