Just like adults, children have their share of worries, concerns and daily demands. When I look back on my childhood, I can see I had more than my fair share.
I would withdraw for long periods, then when it was time to face the world I would deal with my realities. Worries for children may start around the time they start school, due to the endless demands and expectations put upon them.
Children’s worries tend can be age related and although their worries aren’t adult worries, to children they probably feel like they are. Looking back, although I had school worries and concerns, I focused more on my own personal issues around my disability.
I wasn’t oblivious. I had an element of understanding. But the nature of children is that they may worry about adolescence, about peer pressure. They may also worry about being bullied in school, they may worry about not making the school team, but to a child, those disappointments may seem like the end of the world.
But it is possible that if children don’t handle their worries when they're small, they may struggle to handle them effectively as adults. I have experience of how traits from childhood can spill over into adult life.
I remember worrying about my parents and losing them.
I didn't worry about any of the stuff mentioned, and I definitely didn't worry about my medical problems. I was carefree unless it had to do with my family. I depended on my parents to take care of me and that's what they did.
I expect they probably did to much for me spoiling me a little but I would have nightmares about losing them and wake up crying. I loved them very much and still do.
Love was a huge theme in my life growing up and I feel it's a very important subject to any child.
Lisa it sounds like we both relied on our parents to care for our medical problems. My parents were the most important thing in my life back then. Emotionally I relied on them more than my other siblings did.
I believe it saved me from having to work through the rest of what would be potential worries that other children seem to consume that I didn't. Perhaps that was the same for you.
My sister continues to tell me that I was lucky in that regard. I think she's right.
Children shouldn't have a lot to worry about when they're growing up. I know I grew up in a world where we had to worry about things like where we were going to be living and what we would have to eat from day to day.
It just made for a consistent nightmare that we didn't really have any great chance of escaping from when we were so young. It still haunts me to this day and I spend a lot of time trying very hard to forget what it was like.
I'm just trying to learn how to move beyond it now so I could actually enjoy my life for a change!
I am really sorry you had such a hard time as a child Randy.
I totally agree with you that children shouldn't have a lot to worry about when they're growing up, after all they're children.
I really do hope that you will be able to get past this point, so that you can begin to enjoy your life a little more.
I was very independent from my parents as a child and they allowed me to do whatever I wanted so I only ever worried about myself. I guess I was fortunate.
You probably didn't think you were, but looking back I am sure you know you were fortunate. You paved your own way in life but that may also have its pitfalls too.
You have to remember to include others in your decision making, which you didn't need to do as a child. It's a new thought process but one I feel will be worth the effort.