When we can accept people’s bad points as well as good, we know we’ve worked through a process of understanding. When we can continue to have a relationship with the people who hurt us and are willing to let the hurt go, we know we’ve worked through the healing process.
When we can also begin to move forward without holding back or getting angry, we know we’ve worked through the healing process. When we’re calm, and things generally don’t bother us any more, we know we’ve worked through the healing process.
It’s important to have positive perceptions and an understanding of the bigger picture of our experiences as those practices will help with the healing process.
I let things go too easily. I think I just don't want to go there or deal with people. I don't want the hurt feelings or confrontations.
I just want to let things be whether it bothers me or not. I let people think of me what they want. I know who I am and what I do or don't do.
Yes I'm hoping that I'm working on the healing process, since I've spent so much of my life focused on the harm done to me by others.
It's been very hard for me recently, because I feel like I wasted so much of my life focusing on those things that I missed out on. So many opportunities to do what I needed to do to heal. My fears, doubts and insecurities kept me from doing what I needed and wanted to do for myself.
I'm trying very hard to move on from many of my regrets and focus on what I can do now to make my life better! It's definitely not very easy at times but it's what I know needs to be done so that I can actually be at peace with myself and the world around me.
I understand you totally Randy. I hope you manage to work on the healing process too! There is no definite time spam, it's when you begin to feel better about the things you've dealt with.
None of us can change what happens to us sometimes, but it's worth remembering we can change so that we live the life we want to live, not the life someone else thinks we should live.
We often do this for an easy life, but our life becomes less easy when we fail to take control.
I understand you wouldn't want to intentionally hurt someone's feelings, but if they're already hurting you that needs to be dealt with.
In the real world we have to stand our ground. We have to heal. We cannot heal when others take advantage and we say nothing.
I tend to let some things go to avoid useless confrontation. It's a matter of choosing my battles carefully and strategically. Confrontation is for truly important issues.
I agree with every word in this post. Having an understanding of the bigger picture promotes the healing process.
Thanks Tim. I think you're right, it's a matter of choosing our battles carefully and with whom, but sometimes depending on our circumstances we may not be left with a choice about confrontation. From my own experiences it very much depends on what we have to deal with.
Everyone's circumstances are different of course, but ultimately we need to try to heal if we are to find peace in our lives. Seeing the bigger picture and making better choices always helps.