We don’t have to be thrown in jail to lose our liberty. Liberty comes in many guises. When others are in control of our lives and we have no control, we don’t have our liberty because of those restrictions placed upon us.

The definition of liberty: 'the condition of being free from restriction or control, the right and power to act, believe, or express oneself in a manner of one's own choosing.' With our liberty, we are free to express ourselves and have the power to act on those expressions.

Throughout my childhood and adult life, my liberty was relinquished by default, certainly not by choice.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Our liberty”

  1. I too didn't have the liberty I should have had when I was younger. I wasn't allowed to get out in the world and explore and learn to live my life until I was 23 and married.

    I had a curfew until then as long as I lived in my parents home I had that curfew. My father was very strict when it came to living in his home. I got into an argument with him once when I was separated from my husband and I received a phone call from my husband's mother, wanting me to get back together with her son (which at this point was out of the question.)

    Anyway, my father demanded to know who I was talking to and it was his home and he had a right to know who I was talking to. Well he didn't find out! I put my foot down.

    That was the first time I had ever stood up to him. I had gone from losing my liberty to my parents, to losing it to my husband and I was finally free and that felt good and no one was going to take it away again.

    1. Thanks Lisa. I'm so pleased you got your liberty back. I can't help but think cultures are very much responsible, but I also feel society plays its part.

      When we lose our liberty that unfortunately also puts a different slant on our relationship with that person. You shouldn't have had to go through the trauma of your father putting you in that position. Your life is your life, your choices are for you to make.

      Your father made his choices. He should have allowed you yours, without you being answerable to him in the way you were.

  2. Yes, it's something I've had to work on getting used to considering I never really had it, or understood it most of my life!

    My world was always very small by the way I grew up, so I lost the concept of how big the world really is. I've been trying very hard to point this out to my daughter while at the same time hearing my own advice on the need to get out there.

    I can understand however how someone can be so hesitant to come out of their comfort zone to deal with the real world. It's great to imagine but also can be very terrifying when you've had to deal with the worst humanity has to offer!

    I'm hoping that I can enjoy the liberties I do have for a change in my life.

    1. Thanks Randy. If we're not given the opportunities we have to take the opportunities where we can.

      Obviously the older we get the harder it is to do, but as my case has shown if and when the opportunity arises we just have to take it.

      I hope you can enjoy the liberties you have now. You deserve to have them.

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