The saying: 'we get one crack at life, is spot on, therefore it’s important to learn to cope with change as part of life. For those who live presently, we may find change, our approach to change and coping with change easier.
We need to see change as something that brings something better. Change has to be better than where you may currently reside.
How do we Cope with Change?
You should start by asking yourself what’s the worst thing that can happen? What is it that worries you about change and if you choose not to change things, is where you are better? If you're honest, you will at least think about change.
We Can't Always Plan for Change
Although we cannot always plan for change, like the unexpected death of a loved one, where we can plan it's important to plan. Once you're through the other end of change, change is never as bad as you think, but the mind can play tricks. Change can become the reason you may have a strong resistance, whether you're avoiding change, because you think you can't handle change, or you're simply opposing change.
But for most of us the problem isn’t change per se, it’s our inability to work through change because we’re struggling with parts of our childhood that is keeping us stuck.
Dealing with change isn't something I cope well with, whether it's a good or bad thing, considering the way I grew up.
There was always chaos and insanity going on, so any changes that happened were usually bad and there usually wasn't much we could do about.
I ended up with a sense of learned helplessness where nothing I did was going to change things, which is how it's been for most of my life.
It is quite an extreme transition now, me being in a position where I don't have anyone telling me how to live my life. I have to get used to having a freedom I haven't ever known.
Hard to believe that I can make changes for the better and I don't have to feel guilty about it anymore.
Thanks Randy. I love that you got there, it doesn't matter how long it took. The important thing is you're there and happier for it.
Growing up in a dysfunctional family is more common than you think, but it's good you're coming through the other end and coping with some of the changes you've been able to make.