Injustice can make us feel bitter, and unless we deal with and move on from that feeling, it can turn into anger. We must decide how best to handle ourselves and our situation.

Dwelling on Bitterness

Bitterness is something we may dwell on. It can be worse than anger, because bitterness can eat away at us psychologically. It is important to get past and learn to see beyond bitterness.

Stand Back and Evaluate Your Circumstances

That said you can still have control. You should stand back and evaluate your circumstances, to work out why you're feeling bitter and why you're feeling detached. Not everything we feel is about us.

We Can Change the Way We See our Experiences

Whilst we can't turn back the clock on our circumstances, or our experiences; we can change the way we see our experiences and take action to move away from any bitterness. Bitterness not only eats away at us, but may also cause symptoms of trauma, low self-confidence and self-esteem.

Conclusion

To move away from bitterness, always look at the bigger picture, the important facts about a situation and the effects of that situation, and don’t be distracted by the minor details.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Bitterness”

  1. All bitterness starts out as hurt. I think the best way to regain some emotional balance is to abandon the resentment and anger.

    Otherwise we hurt ourselves more by prolonging the painful emotions surrounding bitterness. I have read that forgiveness is the cure for bitterness, but I believe that some actions and words are beyond forgiveness and don't believe everyone deserves forgiveness.

    But we do deserve equilibrium and balance so that we can move on from the hurt.

    1. Thanks. We absolutely do. I also believe some actions and words are beyond forgiveness.

      It wouldn't be for me to try to convince others, to accept what I know is true. As Margaret Thatcher, once said 'The lady's not for turning.'

      If others won't accept any wrong doing, there is literally nothing we can do to change their thinking, but we can choose to decide whether we forgive.

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