We’re constantly being conditioned from the minute we’re born. The conditioning takes the form through our unconscious mind.
The unconscious mind is defined as part of the mind that gives rise to a collection of thoughts, which lays beneath the surface of our conscious, which we have no access to unless we know how to unlock those thoughts.
According, to Freud’s psychoanalytic theory of personalities, the unconscious mind is a reservoir of feelings, thoughts and memories that lie beyond our conscious awareness. The contents of those memories influence everyday behaviour, although we are not consciously aware of what those underlying influences are.
Many of those unconscious thoughts include experiences, unconscious issues, unconscious feelings, complexes, unnoticed perceptions, unconscious habits and complexes, anything that make up our behaviour. Everything we’re not consciously aware of in our everyday lives, but continue to influence every day behaviour.
Unfortunately, without us trying to go beyond our conscious thoughts, we will fail to change anything. We will fail to work through difficult circumstances, we will also fail to address issues that continue to crop up.
Any help through counselling will also fail, which explains why many people fall back into old habits and patterns. It’s only when people reach a cross-road, a turning point in their lives that leads to a change in their cognitive skills.
I can understand how difficult it must be to go through counselling and get very little resolve.
I haven't been in therapy myself, but I know someone who has and I know that unless there is an understanding as to why our lives turn out the way they do, it's easy for us to continue the same old patters, if they are patterns that need changing.
In order to change the old patterns, both parts of the brain must agree on a way forward. Counsellors can give us tools to learn how to cope with our lives, but we must go that one step further and find understanding.
Once we have the understanding, we can use the tools in place to turn our thinking around. When we change our thinking and have the understanding, we will change old patterns into new ones.
Thank you. Yes I agree.
Half the battle does seem to be admitting that you do have issues that do have to be worked on!
People who choose not to do this are really wasting their time, because they will never really be working on what the issue really is. A prime example is an alcoholic who refuses to admit he is an alcoholic and tries a million other things to try fixing the problem rather than just deal with the alcoholism.
I think it also has so much to do with all the issues in the world where people are doing everything but what they should be doing to fix their problems. They blame their problems on everyone else when they should really be looking in the mirror at their own problems.
Yes until we admit we have a problem, we don't have a problem but we clearly do. It's often clearer for others to see what we don't see.
Once we come to see and understand though, I believe we can sort our problems out fairly quickly. Counselling didn't work for me, but coming out and having a problem to deal with that took my attention, kick started me into knowing I had to sort my own problem and life out, no-one could do that for me and that is exactly what happened in my case.
Sometimes it just takes one thing for us 'to get it.'