For anyone experiencing the loss of a twin, life can be a daunting challenge, when we’re left to pick up the pieces without our other half. The grief and void we feel is like no other, particularly because twins lives are biologically intertwined. Since my twin died, life has become a lot more challenging. I'm not healing currently.

Keeping my twin's memory alive

Deep personal loss is unique and I've had my fair share of struggles. It's okay to take the time and space to process your loss. It is okay to feel a range of emotions and to accept you have those. Healing is a process which takes time. I am keeping the memory and legacy of my twin alive by sharing my stories and by talking about her and her life.

Talking about my twin helps with my grief

Through my writing, being able to express my thoughts and feelings, talking about my twin is helping me to let go of the grief.

It is important I talk about her

It is important I talk about her. I remember a conversation my twin had with mum, (my twin was named after my mum’s sister) about the sister she lost to red flu at 25 (she was an asthmatic), when my twin asked why even though she was named after our aunt, our aunt was never spoken about.

Trauma of losing my twin

There is no doubt that the trauma of losing my twin has had a physical and mental effect on me personally. The grieving process takes personal and physical energy. I am experiencing the loss of someone who was important to me in my life.

When we ignore our loss, we ignore their life existed, or mattered. My twin mattered and we shared a life.