There is no night without a dawning
No winter without a spring
And beyond the dark horizon
Our hearts will once more sing…
For those who leave us for a while
Have only gone away
Out of a restless, care worn world
Into a brighter day.

Anon

Sheila,

The absence of your presence has left me feeling lost. I have never felt pain like this before, never experienced life without you, and now that you're gone, I find myself struggling to navigate this new reality. The space that was once filled now feels empty, and desolate. I don't know how to do life without you.

Without you, every aspect of my life has been shattered into countless fragments, as I am left to pick up these broken pieces, with a heavy heart and a sense of uncertainty. In moments of despair, I turn to writing as a means of expression, so that I can find clarity around the chaos of my grief, helping me to fill the void left by your absence, allowing me to put my thoughts and emotions into words.

I know my life on earth will never be the same without you. We were bound together by an unbreakable twin bond and although it is now diminished, I know the connection we shared still endures, albeit in a different form.

Now, on your fist anniversary, as I grapple with the pain of losing you, I hold on to the belief that your spirit continues to watch over me/us. I find comfort in the thought that you are still with me/us in some way, as you offer your love and guidance from beyond.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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