Do we turn the other cheek or run away when it comes to problems that we need to sort out, and do you begin to throw doubt on your abilities? We know what we need to deal with, but uncertainty stops us in our tracks.
But turning the other cheek, or running away doesn't solve anything. Although issues can make us panic, it's easy to see why those things can make us feel out of our depth and control. It's a viscous circle.
We’re out of control, so it's easy to lose sight, then we turn the other cheek in the hope that our issues will go away. But running away will only set us up to fail. Running magnifies we have a problem. Where we go, our problems go with us.
We can learn new strategies; we may even find new solutions in the process. Working through any process helps us find acceptance and change. We can't run away from life or problems; we won't emotionally grow; we must deal with both.
I understand this very well.
You do not think you are ever going to come out the other side and see the sun shine again, but it does happen. Things do get better. You just have to believe that.
When we face a problem head on and solve it it gives us strength and power to continue. We feel in control.
I totally agree with you on all your points Randy. Thank you for posting.
I agree. I find that if I'm faced with a problem I get motivated from others and then I can handle the situation.
I also sometimes walk out and take a breather because I know I will say something I'll regret. This happened yesterday. I became very frustrated with someone and had to walk outside to take a deep breath.
A friend of mine said she was proud of me for doing this because she would have clobbered the other person!
It's good that other people motivate you, so that you are able to deal with your problems. I think we all find our own coping mechanisms and that has to be okay.
Whatever works for us is good, however we choose to deal with it.
Yes, this is a subject that I can understand all too well.
I've spent the majority of my life running away from my problems and now at 42 years old I have to grow up and deal with them. Like you said, our problems always go with us, no matter where we go.
I'm hoping and praying that I can do what needs to be done. I know it will be a very painful process, to put it mildly! I'm very tired of always feeling like I'm running away.
It would be nice to feel like I could stay in one place,and deal with things. Only time will tell what the future will bring.
I don't think you are alone Randy. Emotionally I am sure most of us will have done that at some point or another.
It is good that you recognise that you have a tendency to run away, but I am pleased that you also know you need to deal with not running away.
I am here for you. Thank you for posting.