We should look and think outside the box, instead of apportioning blame; if we are to meet with success. The world is based around a culture of blame, characterised by an unwillingness to accept responsibility for our mistakes, individually and through institutions.

Taking Responsibility

No matter what our issues throw up or how we got to our issues, we’ve settled into a blame culture, where everyone else is to blame, and although it's not true, we’re happy to make it appear as if it is. Although we may not initially be to blame, we are to blame if we continue to blame others and don’t start to take responsibility for ourselves.

Society Needs to Work Together

It is important through society we work together to build a more functional system with a fair and open culture of accountability. Blame is subjective. It is based on personal opinions. But a personal opinion is flawed, because it is based on our personal thinking and not the universal thinking.

Conclusion

It's easier to direct blame elsewhere, than work through our issues and understand that we are to blame, particularly if we ignore what we need to deal with. We need to think about and take responsibility for our decisions and what we continue to bring to our relationships. It's not healthy to continue to apportion blame. Blame has always got something to do with the history of our relationships. We need to be objective, not subjective.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “A Culture of Blame”

  1. In other words, you're trying to elevate us above what our minds are accustomed to thinking. You want us to rise above the pettiness of blame.

    Blog by blog you want us to shed our destructive behavior and break the chains that are holding us back.

    1. Thanks Tim. Blog by blog I put out my thoughts into the universe and uncover universal truths. I feel it's not up to me to point out other people's destructive behaviour. It's for them to understand and change.

      I simply explain things in a way that enables others to see and understand things for themselves. But people will always resonate with what's familiar, even if they don't want to own it.

      Because I write my blogs around the universal truths, everything will feel familiar. I work on the universal truths and those affect us all.

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