It doesn’t matter what we say, or how conciliatory we are towards others, there will always be someone we come across, who thinks it’s acceptable to have a bad attitude towards us.
Those with a bad attitude may always assume there is something wrong with others, but never with themselves. Any problem they have is usually down to someone else. They're simply not willing to help, improve or change how they are.
Those people may be generally uncaring, inconsiderate and apathetic about how other people feel. Unfortunately, they may also be part of the problem, instead of being part of the solution.
But there is hope. Through the healing process and we all have access to healing, people can change certain aspects of themselves.
I can sense a person's attitude behind their smile. So I'm not particularly surprised when a person decides to passively or aggressively lull me into the dark parts of their lives. I just find it insulting and violating for anyone to take me there.
But I'm not trying to transform people into angels, I just want people to keep their attitudes away from me.
Thanks Tim. It's great you can sense a person's attitude behind their smile. I'm not sure I've ever got to their smile. I suppose it depends on their demeanor at the time and how long they can contain their moods.
I agree with you.It's insulting and violating for anyone to have to contend with that kind of behaviour. We all deserve to have kind and conciliatory people in our lives who love and support us, and who don't make us feel like we're on a battle field.
I am sure I'm not alone when I say that unfortunately has been part of my life. In my own case it made me stronger and even more determined to move away from their behaviour.
When I come across people with a bad attitude to me, I immediately assume they are the one with the problem not me, so I tend not to listen.
I agree it comes about as they are dealing with something unrelated to me. But it does make me change my attitude towards that person and I generally back off and don't want to know.
Thank you, yes but that may not always be the case if the attitude they have is because of something we've done or said. A lot of what comes back at us, is what we hand out.
We tend to rule that option out, but that's often where the problem is, unfortunately.
Completely agree! We've all come across those types of people. Unfortunately they're all over!
All we can do, I believe, is really understand that there is absolutely nothing wrong with us, but them and that is for themselves to figure out. Not our problem at all.
Thanks Bonnie. Yes those types of people are in all walks of life, or seem to be!
If we know their attitude has nothing to do with the way we are, there's nothing we need to do, but I have to admit, those type of people can make life more difficult for those of us who behave more than appropriately.
Instead of getting upset with those with a bad attitude, perhaps we need to have empathy for them.
They might be going through a difficult situation or life hasn't been kind to them. We just need to realize their attitude is not because of us.
Thanks Maria. It's a hard one, but if I hadn't have been on the receiving end of people's bad attitude, I would probably agree with you. It seems a kind and conciliatory thing to do. You have a point, we all deal with something.
Some of us are more equipped to deal with potential issues, more than others, but that will and can never excuse a bad attitude.
If that someone is struggling and they're willing to talk about what it is they are struggling with, then that's fine.
I'm sure we would all want to listen and help in some way, but without trying to sort out a bad attitude, so that we learn to change, a bad attitude will always be just that.
We can put up with a bad attitude, but not indefinitely. A bad attitude is unhealthy and carries health risks. Having lived and experienced that life, I choose to walk away. It's not selfish, it's a necessity, if we want to stay well.
It's up to others to sort themselves out. It's not up to us to carry them.