Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
Something inspirational: “Think wrongly, if you please, but in all cases think for yourself.” DORIS LESSING Thinking for yourself means more than having your own opinions. It means owning your words, your choices, and ...
Something inspirational: "We are not what happened to us. We are what we choose to become.” JAMES HOLLIS "I am drawn to James Hollis's words: 'We are not what happened to us. We are what we choose ...
Something inspirational: "Healing begins when we can hold our own experience with compassion." TARA BRACH Brach's quote reminds us that healing begins when we meet our pain with kindness instead of judgement ...
Thanks Tim. I think at the age of 20 you can be forgiven for working from your ego.
That's the age we tend to have the most confidence, having come through adolescence and finding our sense of self, not always appropriately. But as you came to understand and discover later, you learned a different way to be.
The problem is by the time we get to that point, others have already written us off, particularly if they've been on the receiving end of our ego.
The important point here is that people allow us to come back in, for us to be who we have come to be, through the other end of that transition period. We almost do. It's called 'growing up.'
Unfortunately, too many times we've already been written off with no second chance to prove ourselves.
It's polite to listen to people we're speaking to, just as much as we like to be heard.
When we don't listen to someone, it makes them feel undervalued and less likely they'll want to chat with us in the future. An ego has no place in life, especially if it alienates us from others.
Thanks Maria. Yes I couldn't agree more. An Ego has no place in life at all.
It's not easy knowing how to deal with anyone who works from the Ego, because the Ego uses sarcasm, mockery and taunting to convey its message, which is very much part of the Ego scenario.
As you have eloquently explained and I agree, the Ego serves to alienate anyone using it from others including loved ones.
Yes, that's absolutely right. How much better off we would all be without the ego dictating our every thought.
I believe we must co-exist and to do that successfully we have to do it without the ego. Relationships fail because of it and will do for some years to come.
When I was a young man, about twenty years old, I had a huge ego; I wanted to be who people thought I was.
Of course, I discovered awareness years later, but that was after I drained love from a few people.
Thanks Tim. I think at the age of 20 you can be forgiven for working from your ego.
That's the age we tend to have the most confidence, having come through adolescence and finding our sense of self, not always appropriately. But as you came to understand and discover later, you learned a different way to be.
The problem is by the time we get to that point, others have already written us off, particularly if they've been on the receiving end of our ego.
The important point here is that people allow us to come back in, for us to be who we have come to be, through the other end of that transition period. We almost do. It's called 'growing up.'
Unfortunately, too many times we've already been written off with no second chance to prove ourselves.
It's polite to listen to people we're speaking to, just as much as we like to be heard.
When we don't listen to someone, it makes them feel undervalued and less likely they'll want to chat with us in the future. An ego has no place in life, especially if it alienates us from others.
Thanks Maria. Yes I couldn't agree more. An Ego has no place in life at all.
It's not easy knowing how to deal with anyone who works from the Ego, because the Ego uses sarcasm, mockery and taunting to convey its message, which is very much part of the Ego scenario.
As you have eloquently explained and I agree, the Ego serves to alienate anyone using it from others including loved ones.
If we have an ego then by definition we don't listen to others. The ego knows best. If we lose the ego we will learn to listen.
Yes, that's absolutely right. How much better off we would all be without the ego dictating our every thought.
I believe we must co-exist and to do that successfully we have to do it without the ego. Relationships fail because of it and will do for some years to come.