A lack of trust can affect the strength of our social, mental, physical and emotional health. To have trust is to have faith that someone has your back. Where we fail to trust our judgment and gut instinct, we will fail to trust ourselves, therefore we may resist trusting others.

Negative Beliefs

Negative beliefs attach themselves to those who struggle to trust, which means they're likely to attract similar people who reflect those same negative beliefs, rather than challenge them. Being around people who are distrustful is exhausting, especially when their distrust is rooted in previous experiences, tied to the actions of other people and previous events.

Faith, Trust and Respect

We all have the ability to change. We need to have faith, trust and respect ourselves, which are the foundations and building blocks to a better life. Those attributes will replicate in our relationships. We need to distinguish between healthy and unhealthy situations.

Feelings of Indecision, Inaction and Distrust

Indecisions, inactions and distrust, can if left, feed into our psyche, into our relationships. It is important for others to have trust in us – and for us to be able to trust others.

Problems with Trust in Governments

We are seeing a problem of trust in governments, in society and in the wider world. Where their decisions don't concur with what the universe expects, trust will be an issue, people will start to work against each other and things will work out badly.

The Ego and Selfish Attitudes

We’re destroying relationships through ego and selfish attitudes, and through the choices we make. Instead, we should be selfless and act in accordance with the universal principles, so that we can start to build a better world.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “A Problem of Trust”

  1. My sense of trust was warped by a childhood of brainwashing and conditioning. I was forced to trust people that weren't very trustworthy, so I ended up not knowing who to trust and not trusting my instincts.

    This has led me into a life where I have felt lost and been used and abused by so many people, when I should have known better but didn't know anything different.

    The term I have come up with is 'you live what you know' which makes perfect sense under the circumstances! Now, I'm just trying to figure out how to live my own life under my own terms and finally feel comfortable in my own skin.

    1. Thanks Randy. Yes, all this is a learning curve. I'm not sure as children we really understand how to play things, or what trust means.

      We grow up knowing our circumstances and don't stop to question things, until we begin to question things, particularly around our struggles. Although it's hard for us to shape our lives, through the other end we can come out more grounded individuals.

      I think we need to continue to understand our experiences, think about those and work through our feelings. I also think we have to separate the person from the deed, and try to understand why that person would make the decision they make.

      It is a learning curve that's well worth the effort. I know that because it is exactly what I have done.

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