Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities.
She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges.
In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines.
Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.
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Something inspirational: "Healing begins when we can hold our own experience with compassion." TARA BRACH Brach's quote reminds us that healing begins when we meet our pain with kindness instead of judgement ...
This quote is spot on and highlights that jealousy is one of our major failings.
Instead of people being happy that we have achieved something, we often meet with jealousy from that other person. I have certainly met with this, even when the person concerned was a family member who obviously knows me well, they have found it hard to hide their jealousy.
It was as if they would have preferred me to fail, rather than succeed. This is a shame really and it does neither party any good.
In my case I have no relationship with that person any more and I cant say that I miss it.
I agree with you and Brad on this. Jealousy is something that will eat you alive if you let it.
I used to be jealous of a family member until I discovered that they were just like me, even though they were successful. I think a bad part of it, is that the person knew they were successful and kind of rubbed it in. "Okay, so your successful and I'm not. Don't rub it in my face."
People that do this are conceded and wrapped up in their own little world.
Thanks Lisa. You're absolutely right in what you say Lisa, but some people think that because they've become successful they're better than others, and that's simply not true. Deep down we're all the same.
Unfortunately though, jealousy not only impacts our relationship with other people, it impacts us greatly too.
Yes, it would have been nice if someone had noticed that I was a success as a child.
My parents never really acknowledged us either way, so there wasn't much of a reason to really try to do anything. It just led to a pattern of not really wanting to try to accomplish anything, since the people who were supposed to care the most seemed oblivious to whatever we did, good or bad.
Only now do I feel like it's OK to actually try to do something in my life, since I feel it's ok to do something important for myself!
Thanks Randy. Perhaps it has something to do with that Era. My experiences were very similar to your experiences. I still believe though, it's up to us to change so that we can become a success in our right, regardless of our formative years and our parentage.
If anything I feel we owe it to ourselves and our children to prove that just because we weren't encouraged to be successful, doesn't mean we can't be successful.
I believe anyone can, but we have to be completely willing to change our perceptions. I completely understand you and know you can do this.
This quote is spot on and highlights that jealousy is one of our major failings.
Instead of people being happy that we have achieved something, we often meet with jealousy from that other person. I have certainly met with this, even when the person concerned was a family member who obviously knows me well, they have found it hard to hide their jealousy.
It was as if they would have preferred me to fail, rather than succeed. This is a shame really and it does neither party any good.
In my case I have no relationship with that person any more and I cant say that I miss it.
Yes unfortunately what you describe is exactly the nature of jealousy. Jealousy is like a cancer, it grows and gets bigger.
It can split families, friendships and trust in the longer term.
I agree with you and Brad on this. Jealousy is something that will eat you alive if you let it.
I used to be jealous of a family member until I discovered that they were just like me, even though they were successful. I think a bad part of it, is that the person knew they were successful and kind of rubbed it in. "Okay, so your successful and I'm not. Don't rub it in my face."
People that do this are conceded and wrapped up in their own little world.
Thanks Lisa. You're absolutely right in what you say Lisa, but some people think that because they've become successful they're better than others, and that's simply not true. Deep down we're all the same.
Unfortunately though, jealousy not only impacts our relationship with other people, it impacts us greatly too.
Yes, it would have been nice if someone had noticed that I was a success as a child.
My parents never really acknowledged us either way, so there wasn't much of a reason to really try to do anything. It just led to a pattern of not really wanting to try to accomplish anything, since the people who were supposed to care the most seemed oblivious to whatever we did, good or bad.
Only now do I feel like it's OK to actually try to do something in my life, since I feel it's ok to do something important for myself!
Thanks Randy. Perhaps it has something to do with that Era. My experiences were very similar to your experiences. I still believe though, it's up to us to change so that we can become a success in our right, regardless of our formative years and our parentage.
If anything I feel we owe it to ourselves and our children to prove that just because we weren't encouraged to be successful, doesn't mean we can't be successful.
I believe anyone can, but we have to be completely willing to change our perceptions. I completely understand you and know you can do this.