The older we are, the more likely we are to understand the impact of our attitude. Although we may remember certain events, it’s the attitude pertaining to those events that define how others will remember us.
Our education, our experiences, our past and life in general are all important, but our attitude to those things is far more important, because without the right attitude we may struggle, or fail at life. Without the right attitude, people will also go on to form the wrong opinions of us.
We are free to choose how we respond to others, in the same way others are free to choose how they respond towards us. If through our attitudes, we show empathy and compassion, others should react in the same way towards us.
If you believe in spirituality, what you hand out is what will come back. Attitude will always have an impact, therefore it is important we work on having the right attitude.
I agree. How we respond depends on the attitude we encounter.
It's amazing how much more productive a conversation can be, with an amicable context and outlook. It can often take people by surprise when they expect confrontation, so it's a good negotiating tool too.
Thanks. Yes not to say a lot less stressful. I totally agree.
I think people might develop an attitude because of the adversities they face in life; I know I have.
I think because I am misunderstood most of the time, I have come to develop a defensive almost angry attitude. I'm not proud to admit it, but I do take it out on my family when it becomes too much to bear.
Thanks Maria. I was also angry and defensive as a child. I'm not sure that has anything to do with you, but everything to do with your family, particularly your extended family.
I believe had you had and continue to have support around what you deal with, you wouldn't have to go on the defensive and be angry all the time and although you're not proud of it, when you look back I'm sure you'll see the same.
If you were to do a little test and your family came back in with a different more positive attitude towards you, you would be so much more relaxed in your own skin.
Our attitude is often a reflection of other people's attitude towards us.
People with chronic attitudes have a powerful need to share it with others. This is why I consciously keep a good distance away from people who are frequently negative.
I remember watching a co-worker slowly destroy her career by being plain hateful. While I didn't know the origin of her attitude, I knew there was no explanation for it.
Thanks Tim. I couldn't agree more. Being hateful usually comes from anger usually brought on by unresolved issues, and whilst I understand that and can resonate myself, given what I have had to deal with, there can be no excuse.
It's up to each and everyone of us to sort our issues out, however painful those issues are. It's not up to us to inflict pain and suffering on other people, brought about through our own negative experiences of the past, because that's where it usually comes from.