What is emotional immaturity? I ask that because people like me with autism are affected by this. I differ from the way neuro-typicals understand emotional maturity. Through autism I see and navigate the world differently.

Being on the spectrum, means my emotions have developed differently, the same as my responses and perceptions lead me to view the world differently. It means others don’t understand, but being in the majority they don’t think they need to.

Autism, a different language

Where children with autism will develop different communication abilities and language, cognitive development; sensory integration and social and emotional development usually lag behind, even if high cognitive ability is present.

How behind they lag, will depend on their emotional age and that often depends on the level on which a child relates to other children. It is usually determined through observation testing in school, although a parent may often work out their child’s mental age.

A child's mental age with autism

A child’s mental age is usually the age group that your child relates to the best. The nature of what autism is means children with the condition may not fully relate to children of their own age. It is also often the case that other children will have a hard time relating to that child. It is more obvious as that child gets older.

Although other children may like spending time with that child, they may have a hard time understanding them. Where a child relates to a child on the same level emotionally, they are mentally and emotionally around the same age.

Source: https://teenautism.com

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Autism and Emotional Immaturity”

  1. I can understand why having means autism means that you may have emotional immaturity also.

    Autism is characterised as a mental disorder and/or illness, which can and does affect maturity. I think what've you done is remarkable considering where you've come from.

    Autism or not, you should be proud. As well as trying to understand and come to terms with what you deal with, you're helping others too.

    1. Thanks. Yes, there definitely needs to be more understanding around autism. One size doesn't fit all.

      What I find irritating and sad is the fight we have on our hands just to survive with disabilities like autism. There are too many connotations. We need to be dealt with differently.

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