Embrace your fundamental principles. Find joy in the little things. Be content with what you have, be comfortable in solitude, in quiet contemplation and just be happy in the moment.

Disappointments and What we can Learn from Those

It all starts with us. We create our struggles by attaching too much importance to our disappointments without thinking about what we can learn from those. Our disappointments are simply lessons, it is important lessons are learned. We should remove what is no longer in alignment with our values. When we learn to stay centred, when we are able to create a life for ourselves around our values and live with integrity, we can see what is no longer in alignment. When we go back to basics, we can remove parts of our life that no longer serve us.

We Shouldn't Have to Explain 

It could be a job, a living space, a partnership, family, anything we feel isn’t right for us. We shouldn’t have to explain ourselves to others. If we’re already having to explain ourselves, then others don’t understand us. Go back to basics and think about your day where you need to be and how much time you have. Start your day at the right pace and in the right frame of mind. Prioritise your work balance.

Go Back to Basics

Just imagine how much better you'll feel when you go back to basics. How much more tolerance and understanding you'll have. Be content with what you have and with your achievements. Stop striving to have and want more; instead free your energy up so that you have time to think about the things that you need to make your life better.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Back to Basics”

  1. This is what I have been trying to do, since I finally managed to escape from a toxic relationship.

    I have had to focus and work on taking care of my own needs, rather than being forced into depending on another person to take care of those things for me, just like I did when I was a child.

    My childhood was a non-stop series of soul crushing disappointments, so it's no wonder I eventually gave up and stopped trying to accomplish anything on my own.

    It makes sense now as to why I kept getting into the same type of relationships, with different women due to mommy issues.

    I do pretty much have to start over again and learn how to handle living my own life which can still be a very foreign concept to me at times.

    1. Escaping from any toxic relationship is difficult, particularly when you play out the life you've had in that relationship.

      Thanks Randy. I am pleased you have managed to move on and you're where you want to be now. The hard part for anyone is breaking away.

      Back to basics is good. Us, learning to do things differently can initially be a challenge, particularly when it comes to anything new.

      But as long as we understand why our relationships are toxic we can change those. Knowing you can change and make a new start are the right reasons to start.

  2. I agree getting back to basics is a good thing, ecluttering and clearing out the dead wood.

    I'm all for that and getting some balance back into these crazy, technology driven, 24 hour lives we lead.

    1. Yes, me too. It's not enough to talk about it though. As you say in a technology driven 24 hour a day world, it is even more important we learn to declutter and go back to basics.

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