Having a belief can give us a focus and can help with self-esteem and confidence issues. Beliefs can also keep us grounded, give us a sense of purpose, and can help us to continue to stay focused.

That's not the problem. The problem is that non-believers may begin to interfere with our beliefs in a way that can potentially cause conflict. Non-believers generally have little tolerance for those who believe and in doing so, become judgmental instead of being accepting of other people's beliefs.

It is generally accepted that we're different and we hold different beliefs. That is what makes us unique and it acceptable. What isn't acceptable is not understanding, being intolerant, thinking we know, and then standing in judgment on other people's beliefs and opinions.

We can bring our own thinking into any equation, but it is not okay to have an attitude or be judgmental. That comes across as arrogance and has a connotation of passing a judgement in a condescending way that belittles.

It has always been accepted that people have their opinions and therefore will make their own judgments, but we should never be judgmental in our attitude towards others. Whatever our beliefs, judging others harshly isn't acceptable.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Being judgmental”

  1. What a great blog. I wish more people would read this to understand each other and pass with the judgements.

  2. I really dislike anyone being judgmental, like they are in a position of superiority; it's just not right. As you say we are all different and our beliefs are our own and shouldn't be imposed on others.

    It's about respecting others' opinions beliefs and rights, sadly lacking in the world today.

    1. As you say respecting others' opinions, beliefs and rights are sadly lacking in the world, in society, in our homes and relationships.

      It really is a shame because we should all be working together so that judgments are a thing of the past.

  3. Over the years, my conversations have grown more personable, but only with like minded people. I tend to keep my opinions to myself otherwise, to avoid the appearance of being judgmental.

    However, some people's minds are buried under several feet of you know what.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, except I'm sure those people probably wouldn't agree. We can give advice or an opinion to someone, or who we can stand in judgment on something someone is choosing to do that we don't agree with.

      Unless we're talking to like minded individuals, having an opinion or being judgmental with anyone else; would be like having a conversation with ourselves; that opinion or judgment would fall on deaf ears.

      I agree conversations must be personable.

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