Through my difficulties as a child I must have been resilient, because no matter how hard things were, I was determined to come through.

When we are resilient, we don’t see failure as something to dwell on, but as an opportunity to learn. We accept that to fail can sometimes be part of our journey. Being resilient helps us bounce back, so that we can go on to make different and better choices.

I believe resilience comes from within us, from our environment, our peers and our schooling. A significant influence or event can also have a large and lasting impact that will test our resilience. My story has taught me that.

Resilience also teaches us determination, it teaches us how to cope when things are difficult. Once we have resilience, there is nothing we cannot do.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “Being resilient”

  1. I don't know how much resilience I can muster at any given time. It is something for me that changes depending on how I'm coping at any given moment. I fear that the years and trials can wear away at one's resilience.

    When I get to that point I end up depressed and need to recharge my batteries, which becomes harder to do with each passing year. I suppose I'm not at my best today due to a terrible cold I have, so I'm sorry if it has made me a debbie downer.

    1. Brian you are right in what you say. Our resilience may be tested to its limits depending on what we're dealing with and that the years and trials we call life, may hinder ones resilience to bounce back easily, but I know with how positive you try to be, you will always do your best to come through whatever it is you're dealing with. You don't give up easily and I admire you for that.

  2. I get so tired of being resilient, always changing the way I do things, (what works one day doesn't work the next or even hour to hour for that matter). When I get to that point, I end up depressed and just want to get away from everyone, even myself.

    1. Bill, maybe try and change the way you do things so that others fit into your life and what you deal with. It's hard enough coping with CP, let alone trying to bounce back from it, without having to please others as well.

  3. I just deal with what I deal with when I have to. I do get tired of it though. I don't know if I have resilience or not. I also get tired easily if I have to deal with too much at one time.

    1. Lisa, I would think that if you deal with what you have to when you have to and you get the results you're happy with, your probably more resilient than you perhaps think you are.

      If you have too much to deal with, that can make you feel tired. Our patience only stretches so far!

  4. I feel like resilience can take people much further then they initially expect.

    At times resilience is one of the only things that keep us going and looking upon the times in the past where we were resilient is often inspiring, when we need it again for something we may have to deal with in the future.

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