We will spend a lifetime talking ourselves into things, exaggerating those thoughts and believing it will happen. Sound familiar?
It’s something I used to do as a child around illness. The hard part is learning how to turn negative patterns into patterns that break our negative thinking. We emulate negativity through what we see in our childhoods from our parents and our environment. What they do, we unconsciously copy.
It is very difficult to change what we see when we’re constantly living with people who only see life through a negative lens.
Other people's negativity in my childhood had a lot to do with my own negativity, but being around negativity taught me that I needed to do things differently. I was lucky that I understood negativity, but it would take me many years to go on to change what I saw. I found a more spiritual path.
When we believe and understand things happen for a reason, we learn to equate in our own minds that there is no point in holding on to things we can’t change and therefore it’s easier to let those things go.
If something is going to happen and it’s out of our control and we can’t change it, there is no point in worrying about that either. When something happens and you can’t change that something, accept that you can’t. To do nothing isn’t an option, all that does is allow us to worry more.
Learning to be pro-active, so that we are able to change an outcome, is the way forward. When we're proactive we take out half the worry, the other half of our worry dissipates when we bring about a new conclusion to the one we originally had.
This is so familiar to me. I never used to worry about anything. I just got on with what I needed to and never gave anything or anyone for that matter, a second's thought.
More recently with parental responsibilities, as my children have got older and I work for myself, I see that I worry a whole lot more. I also recognise that worry in itself solves nothing and I often tell myself not to worry until there is something to worry about and then don't worry about it, sort it!
I am sure it's familiar to a lot of us. Added responsibility, having children, self-employment, life in general gives us worry, to the extent that we talk ourselves into things; believe things will happen.
When we're really worried it's easy to talk ourselves into things, believing things will happen. I used to do it all the time as a child and you're right to believe that worry in itself solves nothing, because it doesn't.
Until we have something to worry about there is no point in worrying. Absolutely!
My parents were similar to yours in their thinking. My mother was positive most of the time and my father worried ALL the time.
I took after my father for most of my life, worrying about things all the time, but I've learned over the past years to be positive. I still worry, but it's about things I can do something about. When I'm pro-active, I get rid of the worry.
Holding on to worry isn't the way to go. If I can't do anything about something I've learned to let go of it and let God handle it. My religious beliefs have become stronger and I have trust in God.
I heard a short saying I think of when I worry about things I can't change or do anything about. "Let go and let God." It really helps me.
If that helps Lisa. I was told by my mother and was quoted this several times a day, "God helps those who help themselves." Now that I believe to be true.
When we help ourselves first, God's more inclined to see that and help us. I put my faith in the universe and that works for me. We have to find and goes with what helps. That is the most important. We're all different, there is no right or wrong way.