Stop comparing yourself to others

Always try to be better today than you were yesterday. Instead, we focus on being worried or concerned that we don’t measure up to others, and fail to recognise that we too have something to give.

Due to a lack of confidence, we spend rather a large chunk of our lives trying to determining whether we stack up, where in reality there should be no ranking measure at all. Instead, we must measure up to our own personal potential.

Ranging ourselves as superior or inferior doesn’t work. Those assessments will never be factually accurate, because …

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17 Jan, 2020

I should have been told

For every day, for every week, for every month, for every year, for every milestone, I should have been told about my disability. Being told about my disability was not a luxury I was afforded.

For every struggle, for every bad thought, for every time I was told I needed to do my exercises without an explanation, for every time I got a bad mark because I failed to understand school, I should have been …

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16 Jan, 2020

The cycle of blame

The most obvious of ways of others apportioning blame is us being told we are to blame. Blame isn’t always down to us, but directed at us. It’s their guilt enforced on us. It’s in families, in society, in the wider world.

The expression ‘elephant in the room’ refers to a problem, a topic of conversation in the past that no one wants to talk about, or wants to discuss because it’s uncomfortable, is part of the cycle …

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15 Jan, 2020

An environmental impact

Consumption of almond milk as an alternative to dairy milk has surged in recent years. It is estimated that the market for almond milk has surged by around 250 percent in the last five years.

In addition to dietary or ethical reasons, many people choose almond milk for having a smaller carbon footprint when compared with dairy milk. Unfortunately, almond milk takes its toll on the environment in …

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13 Jan, 2020

Emotional distance

Emotional distance, clearly an indicator of a crisis, isn’t just something that happens within a relationship, it also happens in families. When anyone puts emotional distance between themselves and others, they are ultimately shutting themselves off to what was once a flourishing relationship.

The emotional bond in families and between two people need continual, constant care. We must all pay attention to our relationships, learn to care and pay attention to them so that we can maintain and …

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12 Jan, 2020

My counselling sessions

In my early thirties I spent many sessions in counselling not knowing I had cerebral palsy or autism. Had I have known about them both, I could have got the right help some 30 years ago.

Instead I was left to battle through each session, without understanding anything about myself or my life. Without knowing, meant I was thrown in at the deep end without the necessary tools to be able …

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11 Jan, 2020

Breaking down barriers

Writing my book Cerebral Palsy: A Story ‘Finding the Calm after the Storm’ breaks down barriers not just around disability, but also in wider life. Sensitively written, it charts my journey page by page, breaking down barriers as I go.

Having struggled throughout my life to find a place living with a disability I didn’t know I had, I didn’t realise how stigmatised my life had become. Although things weren’t said, it became obvious from an …

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9 Jan, 2020

Cerebral Palsy and mental health

Cerebral palsy is a condition that affects mental health. A disorder that affects your mood, thinking and potential behaviour is never a good thing. Even if cerebral palsy is mild, we still have our mental health to think about. Our mental and physical health are continually deeply interconnected.

Although cerebral palsy can and does increase our risk of developing depression and anxiety, untreated anxiety and depression contributes to poor physical health. It is easy for others to overlook the importance …

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8 Jan, 2020