Having experienced childhood rejection, you find a place for, it’s not something you forget. It also depends on how long the rejection goes on for.

Parental rejection

Where parental rejection may consist of neglect, abuse, abandonment, or withholding of love and affection, it is important to understand your experiences, because parental rejection can affect you throughout your lifetime. It can also have serious consequences for future generations.

Rejection

It doesn’t matter what form your rejection takes. All forms of rejection hurt, particularly when it’s done by someone you trusted. Rejection has nothing to do with you, but everything to do with the person doing the rejecting.

If you were to delve deeper, it may become obvious those who rejected you, will have been rejected themselves. In other cases, they may not know any better. Those who reject often haven't been supported, hugged or encouraged themselves, and may be clueless as to how to show those things.

Where parents were abused, they will usually go on to repeat the same kind of parenting. In life we learn what we live, what we’ve seen, and history repeats itself. But we can change.

A narcissistic parent

A narcissistic parent, may generally adopt a rejecting approach, and will attempt to abandon others before they walk away first, no matter the child’s issues, or disabilities. If they are rejected first, they will then use guilt trip tactics, to manipulation and power manoeuvres and threats.

A rejected narcissist spouse, may fight for custody of the child, not because they care about the child, but as a way to win and hurt their ex-partner.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Childhood Rejection”

  1. Yes, being ignored and left to your own devices, I would say is a form of childhood rejection, because they didn't attend to your disability needs.

    My parenting was so hands off it was invisible, but with hindsight and in my circumstances, it was the best form of parenting I could have asked for.

    I count myself as lucky.

    1. Thanks. Yes, I have learned a lot since those early days.

      My blog over the years has slowly brought closure, which I am pleased about, but it has also brought other emotions I didn't think about, going through those experiences.

      I don't think you do.

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