We should choose to be happy over being angry or sad. I didn’t understand why as a child I was so angry. Fast forward to adulthood and I believe, see and understand things differently now.

How many of us react out of anger? We’re quick to get our feelings out so that we may protect ourselves. We usually impart a reaction to something that’s said, and that can be damaging. It is important that we are in control and understand how to deal with our emotions.

When we allow others to influence us, we are giving them power over our emotions, and that influences how we behave in return. When we take control of our emotions, we’re less likely to emanate negative emotions.

We need to own our thoughts and deal with our feelings so that what others say, doesn’t affect our response. Our response is a habit that must be relearned.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “Choose to be happy”

  1. Yes, I believe we choose our feelings also. Choosing to be happy over being angry will make us feel better.

    Having a happy outlook makes us feel healthier. Being angry all the time or even upset all the time can cause us problems with our health like high blood pressure or even a heart attack. It can also make our blood sugar go up and that can cause all kind of problems.

    It adds stress on our bodies when we're angry.

    1. I agree that the way we are has a great impact on our health... which is why we should choose to be happy.

      I understand that for some us that may be slightly difficult, but that way we get to stay healthier for longer.

  2. Very good post today. It is all very true what you have said here.

    If I am angry I try now to step back and do not react quickly. If I do I usually say something that is not very nice and end up paying for the remark later in some negative way.

    So watch what you say is best if you can.

    1. Ditto, but with all things in life we have to learn to do all these things so that we become the people we want to be. It takes courage and determination but is well worth the effort.

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