Choose to act. Don’t wait until the mood feels right. If you manage to act and you're still not in the right mood, don’t give up when you’re only part way through.
We owe it to ourselves to finish what we started. Don’t get stuck, or spiral into what could be a very long rut. Ask yourself why you feel stuck and be honest, instead of coming up with the same excuses.
Remind yourself how much better you’ll feel when the job’s done and how bad you’ll feel if you choose to ignore what you know you need to do. Separate what will matter further down the line, with what is temporary now. Don’t put off what you can do today, because tomorrow you'll still be faced with the same issues.
You can’t feel bad, if you choose to opt out of acting on something, when you could have acted. You also can’t complain, on something you had the chance to act on, but didn’t. When anyone chooses to act, they take the first step to positive change.
I can come up with different reasons as to why I shouldn't take action to change a situation that's not working for me.
It could be fear of what people might think of me, fear that it would be physically difficult for me because of my disability, etc. Sometimes I simply have to force myself to take action and then realize it wasn't as bad as I pictured it.
Thanks Maria. You've described exactly what we all do; and come up with your own conclusion on what you do.
I would never not do something for fear of what others may think if I know it's right for me. What we do, has nothing to do with other people. If the shoe were on the other foot, I'm not others wouldn't do something because they were worried about what we thought.
Of course if something is physically difficult based on what you deal with, then it would be right not to act, but always choose to do something because it's right for you and you want to do it.
We put ourselves off choosing to act by putting pictures in our head. What we go on to do, is simply not as bad as we pictured, as you rightly point out.
You're right we should act when we need to, not when the time is right to. It's easy to wait for the 'right' time, but we all know there is often no such thing as that.
I do tend to overthink situations and plan how to deal with them and that's okay sometimes; but I can understand that can be misconstrued as neutrality or hesitancy and sometimes it's just best to get it over with.
It works for me to do things from the inside out, as I need to feel it in my heart and contemplate a little before taking action.
While I'm not very spontaneous, I do believe in following things all the way through until my task is complete.
Ditto on your thoughts. Thanks Tim. As a child I struggled to follow things through but never understood why until now. Now I do understand I have a greater sense of commitment.
I've decided to take action in applying for disability. This will be a good fit for me and my children.
I'm a single mom, so I can solely focus on them. I'll go to school for the time being and work on my healthcare in getting an actual diagnosis.
Thanks Bonnie. I'm pleased you've made a decision. I know that I always feel better when I make a decision and choose to act.
It's one thing that can now be ticked off your list. That will help take the worry out of the equation.
Thank you Ilana. I never wanted to get on it before, because I wanted a career in things my body wouldn't allow.
A person in their 20s like me at the time was too blinded by my body's limitations. After living for a while and having children and finally realizing what I can and can't do.
Thanks Bonnie. Yes it's easy to want things we're not capable of, wishing we were. It's only when we mature and come to accept our limitations that we go on to make the better choices.
Now I'll be able to focus on my girls and health. I have limited help with the kids as it is, so having to work on top of it would be too overwhelming and I'm afraid as a result my girls would be neglected as we have health needs.
I couldn't agree more Bonnie. You have to do what's right for you, given what you deal with. I would do the same.
Thank you Ilana.
You're welcome.