Life is full of new opportunities, when one door closes, another door opens, but we must make ourselves aware of the potential new door and the opportunities that lie beyond it.

We do have control over most things

None of us will have control all the time, but we can have control over most things. We have control over the things we perceive, the things that we fail at and how we can come through the other end.

Failing creates new opportunities

When we fail, we can lose sight of what potential we have. Failing isn’t bad, but at the time it seems like the end of the world. Failing is an opportunity to understand, to learn new things, to open new doors. It is also an opportunity for us to find a resolve and for us to make the necessary changes.

Failing helps us find a new acceptance

Failing gives us the opportunity to stand back, to start anew, to find a level of acceptance on why we have failed. If I fail at something that is my responsibility. If I fail because someone else was responsible for my decision, then that someone is responsible, but it's still up to me to find a way through.

It's okay to fail. Life teaches us that if we are prepared to look for our lessons, failing is one of our most valuable tools.

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Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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8 comments on “Dealing with failure”

  1. You are right. I think new opportunities are challenges and that's the fun. I used to feel like a failure. I couldn't choose a course for my life.

    I tried several things in college and finally became a nurse which I succeeded at more than I expected.

    1. From what you say Lisa it sounds as though you stuck at it. That is so important.

      I'm also pleased you found a career that suited you and that you were good at. I think sometimes we surprise ourselves.

  2. Failure is something I have a lot of experience with and have struggled most of my life dealing with the after effects! It has also been the reason I have given up on so much in my life.

    I came to the point where I figured 'why even bother?' since I felt like it would end in failure anyway. In other words it was easier to just accept defeat rather than even try, since it would end badly anyway!

    Now I am trying so very hard to move beyond that so I may be able to accomplish something worthwhile in the time I have left.

    1. It's a hard one Randy. When we get to that stage where we're trying so hard to change something in our lives and move past that point, it's very easy to give up, but giving up doesn't resolve anything, it just leaves us in a permanent rut.

      I hope you get beyond that point so that you start to turn things around in your life. I'm here if you need any help.

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