It is only when we have grown up with little to no emotional support that we begin to realise how much of a struggle that is. Without support, it is easy to feel aggrieved and that can cause arguments and rifts in families.
It is a parent’s job to support their children regardless of their past, or what they have had to deal with. Unfortunately, feuds can begin when parents or families don’t provide the right form of support, so it is important parents and families work together.
I had a real struggle with this after my mother died. I had to find a way in which my father and I could co exist without battles all the time. In time we have learned to live together without fighting and arguments, but it took a lot of effort on my part for it to happen.
The major problem is both my father and I are stubborn and tend to hold our ground no matter what. Plus we are too much alike.
It's always good to be able to find ways of resolving issues with family. I am pleased that you have found that with your father.
It makes for a more peaceful time for all concerned.
I don't think I received the support I should have as a child and teen, so as an adult I seek support. I've come to accept that.
But I need to get over it and get on with it. I'm doing better than I used to though. I do give a lot of support to my children and of course I let them slide on a lot of stuff.
It's often the lack of emotional support gets in the way of how we deal with our own families now.
I am pleased you are learning to deal with your past and are making a difference for your children.