Stress is a physical response to something we’re mentally struggling with. If not dealt with, it can affect how we think, feel and behave on a conscious and subconscious level. Although we’re not always aware of it, the mind and body constantly interact. If we’re struggling mentally, this can have a direct physical effect.

Stress and our emotions

Stress is a state of emotional or mental strain, or tension, resulting from demanding and adverse circumstances. Stress isn’t tangible, we can’t touch it, but it’s there, and not always when we expect.

There are ways for us to deal with and limit stress. For example, saying ‘no’ to unreasonable demands from family, particularly if their demands are likely to create more stress. We need to think about whether what they’re asking is fair. If the demand was placed on someone else, would we see it as fair?

Learning to say 'no'

As children, we’re not always able to say no. But as the adult, if what family are asking isn’t right, then we need to say no, but also to give reasons rather than a list of excuses. We are refusing the request, not the person. We could try offering an alternative as a compromise. If the time isn’t right but the request is, an explanation will help the other person understand why.

It is important to look at the issues and the people that are causing us stress. Rather than wait for stress to pass, it is important to deal with it when we experience it. Things always feel different with the benefit of hindsight.

It is also important to manage the issues that are causing us unnecessary stress. Plan new and positive experiences so that you can focus on what you have to gain. Be honest with yourself, so that you understand what you're finding stressful. Even if someone else sees it as trivial, it’s not for them to judge.