"Denialism is an irrational action that withholds the validation of an experience or event, past or present, where a person refuses to accept their reality by means of experience or observation.
No matter my difficulties I never denied my realities. I have and continue to tackle my realities, difficulties head on and am truthful about what those are. Each blog I write, outlines the truth and my realities.
When it comes to human behaviour, denialism is a person’s choice. It is difficult to talk to anyone who denies their reality because they don’t listen – and will only believe what they want to believe. But for us to deny reality is to avoid uncomfortable truths that inevitably we will need to face.
Denying what we deal with has become an all too common part of society. We need to learn to deal with our issues and not be in denial on those. Dealing with what we want to believe and not the truth, will lead to us undermining our own long-term goals, future prospects and mental health."
"Denial isn't just a river in Egypt!" This is an old AA expression when talking about how people can be in such denial over the things that are wrong in their lives.
I spent most of my childhood living in denial, with my parents ignoring the herd of elephants stampeding through the living room. The worst thing for me was that knowing everything, I still turned out like my parents and so much worse.
I have worked on forgiving myself and getting on with life. I can't pretend I don't have my issues anymore, but I can live with them and have a halfway decent life.
Thanks Randy. Yes, even with what we know, we will copy what we know if it's something that is continually played out in front of us.
It takes making conscious decisions to choose not to do something your parents did. I remember making mental notes of the things I wasn't happy with, and telling myself I would change those things when I grew up.
It is important we think about our experiences growing up and find new understanding, because it is only through new understanding that we can carve out a new life for ourselves.