“Destiny is a word that implies an ending: a destination to one's life. When two people were ‘destined for each other’, they've given in to a notion that the journey is complete. The best definition to fate that I've heard is that ‘fate is what happens.’ In other words, fate is reality.” - Wikipedia
Fate
Fate is reality, it's what happens. It's what we endure, until something happens to change the status quo. Destiny is different. Destiny implies an ending, a destination to somewhere. That our journey will be complete. Destiny is a journey that we have control over, destiny can be changed when our circumstances change.
Fate vs Destiny
But whether you believe in fate or destiny, you get to change the ending to your fate. Something you're born into, isn’t something that shall continue. That just because you start out one way, doesn’t mean your life has to continue that way.
Conclusion
We have to be determined to change, to move on. We need to remain stalwart in our determination to change and to change our circumstances. Whatever you change is the start of a new destination and that becomes your fate. A new reality different to the old one.
I'm not exactly 100% sure of what I believe in anymore, but I'm sure that there has to be more to life than what I have experienced so far.
The reality hasn't been very pleasant, but then again I was raised in a world where I was made to believe that we had no control over our life or destiny, whatever you may choose to call it. There is a lot we can do to change our lives for the better, which so many people seem to have a hard time believing, myself included.
It's a hard lesson to learn about the things we can change and the things that we can't, which is what I have been through. I'm hoping and praying I can continue to focus on the things I can change, to finally do something productive in my life to make the world a better place for everyone.
Thanks Randy. Yes, long before we're born our life is mapped out for us. Yes, difficult to believe we would contemplate the lives we choose, but this is how it works. We choose our parents for the lessons we need to learn. Some lessons are easier than others.
So that is our destiny, mapped out before we're born. Fate is what we endure through our destiny, until something happens to change the status quo. To a certain extent we can control our fate.
As with all of our experiences, we must look and anticipate our life so that we find an opening. When my mum became terminally ill, I found an opening and changed my fate.
When it comes to parents' control, children find it difficult to change their lives. Your life changed for you Randy when your parents passed. Some things we can't change, particularly around control.
But we can think about and make room for certain openings. I never stopped living in hope that my life would change. Everything I believed in was kept on the back-burner, until such a time as an opening happened.
Our choices are based on our upbringing. Those can be changed. If you're not happy in your relationship, you can call the shots.