The best way to find happiness, is to release the thought process that ties you into certain situations that don’t work for you. Once you've done that you can then decide whether you continue to go down that path or not.

When actions don't support words

The key is not to care so much. Too often people will tell you they care and yet their actions don’t support their words. It took me too long to equate that in my own life, but unless people come to care about themselves, they won’t or can’t care about others. We look to seek happiness in things, more than we do in each other.

Why we sabotage our lives

We also look to find an acceptance in others and believe that finding that will bridge the gap in our happiness. We sabotage our lives in trying to find and hold on to happiness. Happiness isn’t something you find, it isn’t something tangible, it’s something you are. People can’t make us happy unless we are happy. If we’re happy in ourselves, others will always bring out the best in us.

Our 'search for happiness'

Our search for happiness is the single, greatest cause of misery for many of us, as we continue to try to emulate other people's behaviour. We look to others for happiness instead of working and looking at ourselves. We hold on to people’s words as if our lives depended on it, instead of relying on our own words, what we tell ourselves.

Believing what we're told

We believe what we're told, instead of thinking about our own wants and needs. When we get rid of the baggage that weighs us down and we start thinking about what we want, rather than we're told, we can find what makes us happy.

Happiness starts from within, not something you just invent. You don’t just wake up one day happy, it is important to work at being happy. You can start by caring about yourself, with things and people that matter.