When someone ignores something, and they do it consciously with full knowledge and deliberation, that’s when we have a choice about whether we choose to forgive.
Because we have a choice to change our decisions and make a different choice, our decisions then become a whole new story and forgiveness is no longer justified. The deed is also no longer an open and shut case, particularly when the person making the decision knows there will be consequences.
When it takes you 46 years to hear about your diagnosis and then the words ‘I didn’t want to know’ are uttered, but thinking you may have got compassion and understanding instead; it brings a whole new meaning, because it’s clear your life was never going to be any different to the one you got.
It is because each deed is separate, forgiveness is subjective and it is at our discretion that it becomes even more important to understand how you see forgiveness.
