Losing my twin 14 months ago is the catalyst for resurfacing resolved emotions and trauma from my childhood. The psychological impact of losing her is profound. It has triggered feelings I had dealt with. Writing helps to soften some of my experiences, but my experiences and how things have played out for me and my twin, are still rooted in my childhood.

The question is do you really heal from trauma or is it something you simply find a place for? Does it also depend on how much trauma you've had to endure, particularly if your trauma spans years as mine has?

Childhood experiences

Childhood experiences can significantly shape our emotional landscape and how we perceive ourselves and others. If someone didn't receive sufficient emotional support or nurturing during childhood, they may internalise their thoughts on feeling inadequate or unworthy. When faced with the loss of a loved one, these beliefs may resurface, intensifying the grieving process and complicating their ability to cope.

Trauma and abuse

It is common that the loss of a loved one can reignite feelings of resolved pain and anger through what happens to them. Trauma can deeply impact our ability to let go of our experiences, making it even more challenging to navigate the grieving process. Grieving and healing can take years to work through.

Recognising the connections

Recognising the connection between past experiences and your present struggles is a crucial step towards healing. It is important to explore and process your grief and develop coping strategies to navigate the loss and to revisit the underlying emotional wounds from childhood. Therapy can help individuals learn to challenge negative beliefs about themselves, cultivate self-compassion and build healthier relationships moving forward.

My writing helps with mental health, clarity and helps me to place things better.