I try to perceive my life and situations in a way that helps me take control but it’s not always easy.

Below are practical ways to get us out of an emotional rut:

  • Work on the assumption that the rut will pass. I try to see it as a temporary phase, so my thoughts will recognise it only as temporary;
  • Getting out of the house is a good tool for breaking the habit of exclusion and being in a rut;
  • Exercise is known to release a ‘feel good’ hormone; go for walks to clear your head;
  • Think about one small change that will help you clamber out of an emotional rut;
  • Being proactive helps change your mind-set even if it is only for a short while.

There is no right or wrong way of trying to get yourself out of a rut. It’s whatever works for you. Once you have control, you can put your own stamp on what you do and when you choose to do it.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Help with emotional ruts”

  1. I used to go out if I was in a rut and that really helped.

    Getting out and socializing, being around others and forgetting what was going on in life for a little while, was like an emotional vacation.

    1. A great way to get out of an emotional rut Lisa. I'm pleased you managed to make the effort and it worked.

      I believe distracting ourselves is a good way of moving away from an emotional rut.

  2. Growing up I struggled emotionally, not with just my physical limits; but my learning and intellectual limits.

    Finding out about the muscular dystrophy and doing research about it, means that everything makes sense now why things were the way they were.

    It's a huge relief for me to FINALLY get that diagnosis I've needed for so long and now I can do what I need to stay healthy and live a long life.

    1. Thanks Bonnie. Yes I completely agree with you. When we know what we deal with, we become empowered and better placed to do something about it.

      I feel the same way as you do. It's important we keep ourselves as healthy as we can. There isn't a day go by where my health isn't a priority, but that's not altogether bad.

      Having something that we deal with certainly puts a different slant on our lives.

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