Generally, we tend not to look, see or think about how far we come. But looking back is important and is something we should all think about.

Perhaps it's got something to do with a past we’d rather forget, or a past we're stuck in and it becomes the reason we can't move on. But a difficult past will always feel uneasy unless you learn to deal with it.

We may also struggle to see how successful we are through our accomplishments, not on how far we’ve come through our personal best, but we should always look at our personal best and how far we've come, because it is our personal best where we do the most work.

Our personal best tells us how far we've come and how much further we have to go. Our accomplishments, can't always give us that. But even through difficult paths, we can still come through even more focused.

So choose to look at how far you've come. Check in with yourself every now and again and see how far you've come. It will help you decide on the next step.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Look At How Far You've Come”

  1. Right now I feel like I'm in pretty much the same position I was 25 years ago, in a relationship that I didn't want to be in, but not knowing how to change things.

    Thankfully, it isn't a divorce this time, but we have been together for 12 years so it will be complicated and thankfully there aren't any children involved.

    This happens to be one of the biggest issues for me to deal with, which I have been putting off for a very long time. I imagine that I have come quite a way when I think about it, seeing as I wasted so many years trying to avoid the subject and suffered as a result.

    I just want to know what it's like to be able to live my own life for a change and not feel so damn guilty about it.

  2. I've made refinements to my life over the years, noticeably. But my spirit is still hungry for the kind of peace I imagine.

    It's a blur right now but it's there.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, our spirit becomes a blur when we begin to struggle with our life, with certain situations or certain people.

      But it's important we all learn to work together. I think that's where we struggle. Emotionally were further apart than we've ever been.

      That's when our spirit becomes a blur.

    2. Randy, it's your life don't let others make you feel guilty. I learned very late and to my cost, but it's true.

      I do think you've come a long way. Even though your circumstances haven't changed, you know what's best for you. You're also talking about what's best for you.

      Now you have to do what's best for you.

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