You lose someone and your whole life changes. If you can, try to remember to tap into how you feel, so you're aware of your mental and emotional feelings.

While it may seem like a mammoth task, when losing someone close, there are ways to look at that situation, that may be worth considering. While you're trying to fill a void, it may be that looking at your loved one's life, gives rise to missed opportunities for yourself. Allowing yourself to think about and work through your relationship with your loved one, can begin to help you see life in a whole new way.

Creating a positive life perspective

Through time, the loss of a loved one, can allow us to see our lives differently. Seeing and learning things from losing a loved, if your mind is open, can inspire you to begin your life differently.

Choosing to live differently

When it comes to a death and we're able to look at our loved one's life, we may choose to do a complete 360-degree turn-around on how we live our lives, on our mental and physical health. Around a sibling or family loss, we may also use the opportunity to concentrate on our own life and health, by taking time to eat healthily, and investing more in our health.

And while you may feel the urge to change everything at once, it is important to take time to think about whether that is in fact a good idea. Grieving is a process, it's not something that works well rushed. Changes are long-lasting, take your time.

These can also be applied to other situations and other circumstances, including temporary or permanent splits.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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