When we're not emotionally present, we will fail to make the connections between what we think and what we feel.
Traumatic experiences will always prevent emotional development. Pain brought about through trauma isn't always something we recognise, or we may know and keep it to ourselves. It’s rare we open up and say what we feel.
The silent battles hurt
“Trauma isn’t what happens to you, it’s what happens inside you.”- Tim Ferriss. Although trauma happens to us, the biggest trauma is keeping the pain and confusion around our experiences to ourselves. It's the silent battles that do us more harm, than the trauma itself.
Struggles spread into all areas of our lives
The mind is often distracted, stuck in the past, or it’s on other things. But a struggle in one area of our life will spread into other areas, unless we’re prepared to address and deal with the struggle. We can never make the link between our struggles and staying present, without addressing those struggles.
'Failure doesn't prejudice'
Failure doesn't prejudice. How our mind interprets what we remember is responsible for us failing. With work on ourselves, emotional and spiritual healing can happen, but where time heals certain memories, other memories can keep us stuck.
Making the connections between what we think and what we feel helps us understand our lives and the decisions we make and others make for us.
It's not something I automatically do but I am trying to do.
Thanks. Yes, you're absolutely right and you've made your first connection!
But seriously, trying is good. I commend anyone who tries and wants to do better. I think if more of us did, the world would be kinder.
We must do more to come together, but first we must connect with ourselves; because without that we will struggle to connect with anyone else.
We must want to help and be helped. We must also want be kind and caring, compassionate, tolerant and understanding.
Now that I think about it, I haven't been emotionally present in my life for a very long time.
I have a hard time remembering when I didn't consider my own thoughts and feelings irrelevant because of the brainwashing I was subjected to.
I was forced to be a people pleaser and to put everyone else's needs ahead of mine., What I felt and thought didn't really matter, which ends up making yourself wonder why you even bother existing.
They like to say that time heals all wounds, but I have to disagree as far as emotional wounds that never fully heal. It has caused me to choose to stay trapped in the negative cycle of being treated the same way I always was, which I haven't been able to break.
The only choices I have are to find a way to move on or take my leave from this world, but I want to live for the first time in a very long time.
Yes, they say time is a great healer and I believe it is, but it's not something that happens overnight and it can take time.
An emotional wound is an emotional wound whichever way you look at it, but it's our attitude that changes the way we see the wound and that is what allows us to heal.
No one ever forgets emotional abuse, but I believe it's important to find a place that sets us apart from the perpetrator and move on.
I also think we have to be proactive. We have to want to make changes in our life and not be afraid to step out of our comfort zone to do it.
Once we start making the connections between what we think and what we feel, we can do something about changing our circumstances, but we have to want to.