It’s always a juggling act trying to reduce the amount of negative emotions, we take in each day. It’s also a juggling act trying to avoid being influenced by other people’s emotions.

I continue to practice the following:

  • Continue to build on your experiences so that you can improve what’s going on for you presently. No one can turn back the clock on what’s past, but we can change our thoughts on how we see the past and perceive any future decisions;
  • Always be responsible and aware of your interpretations, so that your interpretations and your responses to your interpretations cut your problems down to size not add to them;
  • If the problem you have is yours own it; don’t hide it, or give the problem to someone else. If the problem isn’t yours, try to work out whose problem it is and give the problem straight back.

The worst thing you can do is hold on to your emotions. If something is bothering you, you need to say what it is regardless of the outcome. It's the biggest reason why we hold back.

For every situation you find ourselves in, there will always be opportunities that you're not aware of that will help you manage your emotions. You should use those opportunities as a stepping stone to help with our emotions, turning them into positive ones.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Managing our emotions”

  1. Good suggestions. I used to be very emotional and I let everyone know, but I tend to hold them in now. I really only have one person that I can talk to and that's online.

    I don't have anyone that I can really talk to face to face, so I keep things in a lot. I used to talk to my daughter every day but she moved away and I know I can talk to her via phone but it's not the same.

    1. Thanks Lisa.

      It's lovely when there is someone you can relate to enough to say what you feel. I generally write things down, or if I have an problem and I know who it's with, I tend to speak out and although that in itself isn't easy to do, it does mean the air is cleared, which helps emotionally.

      If I have a problem with my children I'll talk the problem through with them, but they generally don't get to know what I deal with, unless it involves another family member, which they need to know about.

      They'll have time enough to have to deal with issues of their own in their lifetime, without me talking to them about things.

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