“I care not what others think of what I do, but I care very much about what I think of what I do! That is character.” - Theodore Roosevelt

Not everyone will want to understand what you deal with or what you do, particularly if those don't concur with their own thinking, but if those are your own experiences, it's important not to care about what others think, what's important is what you think.

Your Passions

When it comes to you, your passions are up to you. It’s not up to others to have an opinion on what you do or why you do it, it’s for them to have their own opinions on what they choose to do. When it comes to support, it should be unconditional, but it’s not how that works.

Whether you get the support or not, follow your instinct so you don't look back with regret. To know what could have been if you did what you wanted to do but didn’t. 'My story' worked out because I followed my gut instinct.

We Should Be Happy For Others

We should be happy for everyone, not just when things are working out for us, it’s not what the universe expects. The only expectations you should have are the ones you place on yourself.

It is important to remember that when others fail to support, it says everything about them; whatever their reasoning for non-support, if you've played everything by the book and there is nothing you would change, it’s not about you.

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Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “No 'support'”

  1. You have shown and continue to show us what support looks like. But generally we live our lives for ourselves and not for others, so the answers to our questions are within us.

    It's nice if we are fortunate to get the support we need, but I agree with your quote, at the end of the day it starts with us.

    1. Thanks. Yes, having no support I was aware from a small age, just how important support was.

      The older we get the more we must support ourselves, but initially of course, support must start with our families.

      Children should initially be supported by their parents and family, then when we become adults, we must be our own support, but do that we must like ourselves first and be kind to ourselves.

      As my experiences have shown, no matter what we deal with we must be our own support, particularly if we have had 'no mental or emotional support' growing up.

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