I realise that not only did I miss out on my milestones growing up, because my I struggled to learn, I also struggled to reach my milestones associated with adolescence, maturity and the emotions one associates with milestones.

Also, the part of my brain that is damaged also controls the emotions, so everything from what I feel to what I think, to my understanding of what I feel is affected. 'My emotions are extensively damaged.' It is the emotions that are linked to the milestones we’re supposed to experience, and those are what I missed out on.

The good part is that through my intuition, I have slowly learned to adapt, and that has brought about new understanding on the issues I have to deal with.

The hard part is other people’s understanding of how my emotions function and their frustrations and how they connect with me. If I were to relive my life, I am comforted by the fact that I know I couldn’t have done anything differently.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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