So, 'what is normal for the spider is chaos for the fly.' Yes, although our experience in any given situation impacts how we approach or view a task, normal is different to each of us. What I consider normal, someone else will consider not normal.
As individuals, we will always have a different approach, a different opinion, and see things differently, which makes us different and our version of ‘normal’ different. But that’s okay. We would struggle if we were all the same. If we all did normal in the same way, we would like the same people, like the same foods and like the same clothes. We would all be clones of each other.
How we See the World
We see the world as we see ourselves, through our own lens, through our own personalities, but we don’t think about our personalities as we go about our day, we simply expect others to think in the same way. That what we see as the norm is what they see also, but that is not the case.
We all See the World Differently
We all see the world differently. We anticipate situations differently. We can’t assume we’re the same, or that we think the same. If we are to assume, we can assume others will see things differently to us.
Normal is what we routinely work at. Normal is something we continually routinely use, conforming to a standard. Anything and everything that starts off one way, but then becomes usual, typical and expected.
Normal is a setting on a washing machine, as they say in AA. My life hasn't ever been anything that you would consider normal, I have a hard time having a conversation with people.
They have usually had great lives with great families and parents that love them unconditionally, which I can't really relate to or even really understand.
There were many things that people expected me to know how to do, but I didn't have anyone teach me how to do all the normal things that kids learn how to do.
Most of those things I have had to learn on my own and usually the hard way. It's hard for me not to have any resentments, but I'm trying to move on!
Thanks Randy. Yes, as you and I have proved, growing up around issues, becomes 'normal' but those times were far from normal.
Some children may have the life you describe, with families and parents that love them unconditionally, but it's probably not realistic to believe all children have that.
Learning for ourselves is actually a good way to learn. Input from parents is helpful, but not something we will all have. It becomes more satisfying knowing we've had to learn things on our own.
What is normal for one person might be abnormal for another. We should be accepting of all forms of diversity and we are all odd is some way or another.
Boy wouldn't the world be worse off, if we were all Stepford Wives?
Thanks. We would all be clones that could never work. You're right, we must be accepting of all forms of diversity.
The world needs to heal and it can only heal through acceptance and us all working together.