Being 70% mentally disabled means I am 30% physically disabled. Considering I didn’t know I was disabled at all, it’s a lot of numbers to get my head around.

It’s not the life I wanted, but it’s the life I got. My blog and books have given me understanding for the first time. I'm feeling more self-confident now.  It's why I've had to live this life that I struggle with. It is difficult to comprehend why what other people do is not placed on them and why sometimes they behave like the victim when confronted, instead of them accepting they are responsible.

Disability ALWAYS COMES at a mental cost and that IS NOT okay. I have my struggle days; support should always be in a place. That feels like the hardest part.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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2 comments on “Other People's Wrongdoings”

  1. Don't I often wonder about those things myself. Why is it that I have watched people do whatever they pleased without any real consequences?

    My parents always blamed each other for their problems and made us feel like such a burden. They acted like none of us had any problems, when it was obvious that we did.

    People say things like they did the best they could with what they had, but my parents could have done so much more than they did.

    Both of us grew up in times when we fell through the cracks, which was truly such a shame.

    1. Thanks Randy. I agree. It is only when parents take time to work on themselves that they put their children first,

      All children have a right to grow up with self-esteem and confidence. When you say, 'both of us grew up in times when we fell through the cracks' - yes, without the support that is exactly what happens.

      We can only find positive ways to get past other people's wrongdoings.

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