Something usually triggers a memory of us feeling alone, it’s not always because we are alone, or we're feeling isolated. But overcoming the memory that triggers the feeling, is perfectly doable.
Painful Memories
Because the brain is designed to pay attention to pain, it can include painful memories and experiences and loneliness can be part of that equation too. But there is a way through it. Learn to love and be in your own company. Learn to notice and experience things. Take yourself out and spend more time with others.
The human species should learn to acknowledge when its closed off, so that it can learn to open up. Bring curiosity and spontaneity into your lives so that you create the circumstances that make us feel good about ourselves and about life.
Feeling Mentally Separated
There may be things that frighten you that might make you feel mentally separated. Learning to function in your own normal, can help improve your quality of experiences. Learning to participate in your life and not just be someone who lets the world go by when life gets difficult, that shows motivation.
By managing things better, by not closing off, we can all turn loneliness around, so that we feel less isolated. It is important to learn to live alongside your thoughts – to tap into how you feel. Be open to life, be mindful and open to the present.
Loneliness is perhaps our worst fear, especially as we age. When it comes it comes hard.
If you live with loneliness this blog should be very helpful to you.
Thanks Tim. Yes, absolutely. The elderly can and do feel lonely, particularly if they've lost their soul mate.
I do think there is a different way to look at being lonely as my blog describes. I think if more of us could, we would look at feeling lonely, in a completely whole new light.
It's not the act of feeling lonely, it's all about overcoming the memory that triggers the feeling of being lonely.
I was very lonely as a child, but I got used to it, so being alone doesn't bother me as much as it would most other people.
For me it was a lot safer, as there were a lot of people my parents associated with, who weren't very healthy. Strangely enough, I have been feeling very lonely lately, which may be a good sign, as I tend to isolate quite a bit, mostly out of habit more than anything else.
It would be nice to be able to have more friends, as that would help me to be better able to enjoy the present. Most people enjoy spending time with people, which is something that I would enjoy doing for a change.
Thanks Randy. Yes, it helps if we can spend time in our own company and like the company we're with. I think our memories and experiences do have a lot to do with us feeling lonely.
Having friends is important, but it's also important to have the right friends. With or without the company, we are ultimately on our own.
If we're ill, we have to deal with that. If we're struggling with issues, we have to deal with those issues. If we're accomplishing great things, it's easier for us, but we will all still have things that we deal with.
It's a lovely thought Randy, but friends can't guarantee us being able to enjoy the present if we still have things we deal with, or things we're running from.
I've spent a lifetime working it all out.