I've heard it said, 'It's better to come from a broken home than live in one.' It is important not to feel guilty about walking away, if it means we're supporting our mental and emotional health.

We may find it hard to walk away, because we think others may judge. Abuse is abuse, our approval is important. We are responsible for what we put out there.

If someone is rude and their behaviour begins to hurt others, then that is something they need to deal with. Where someone hurts someone else, it is they who will be accountable and judged.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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6 comments on “Relationships and Being Judged”

  1. I totally agree! I came out of my first marriage due to the abusive behavior of my spouse. He was verbally abusive and physically abusive on occasions.

    He committed suicide and I felt a little guilty at the time, but I don't think over the past anymore.

  2. I've spent the majority of my life being feeling judged by my relationship with my parents and it's only now when they're moving on do I feel any sense of closure.

    They taught me how to judge well other people and it has taken many years for me to get beyond those feelings myself.

    I'm just hoping that I can become a better person in the future without being so judgmental.

    1. I know from my own, similar experience with my parents, how hard that can be Randy, but the good thing now is that you feel that you can have a sense of closure.

      We cannot always change the relationship with our parents, but we can certainly change how we perceive our parents and other people, without holding on to past feelings and repeating some of what we've known and seen, like being judged and judging others.

  3. I used to care a lot about what people think, but I too have learned to care about my immediate family. If others don't like me or my decisions as a result it's their problem!

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