Although some of us may have emotional wounds inflicted upon us by others and as a result, a lack of self-worth is what we end up having to deal with, we owe it to ourselves to make sure we work on our self-worth and healing ourselves.

Emotional wounds mean bouts of self-pity and periods of self-indulgent pity over what’s been done, which retrospectively we couldn't do anything about. If we could, we would have.

It shouldn't be an excuse for us not to change and bring back some self-worth. When pity starts to become our focus, then we know it’s time to re-shift and change how we think. We may also go through experiencing self-pity, through a change in circumstances.

There are circumstances where self-pity can be a self-soothing coping mechanism that assists us in accepting and changing our circumstances. Self-pity can hamper our progress.

It can also be self-destructive if we reach rock bottom, but introspection will always help with that.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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