We would all get on better, if we took the time to understand the sentiments behind people’s words.

We spend our lives listening to people’s words, but never look behind their meaning or sentiments, why people say what they say, or what their words mean. We also need to understand the person, because understanding the person, means we understand the reasoning behind the meaning of their words.

If more of us were willing to understand people’s sentiments and why they say what they say, there wouldn't be jumping to conclusions or having to deal with the mandatory fall outs. When we choose to look at the sentiments behind people's words, we need to see sincerity, a refined sensibility. We should also be able to see a person’s vulnerable side, where they’re influenced by their emotions, rather than by fact or reason.

People can always appeal to other people’s sentiments, so long as they’re open and they want to understand, but depending on where they are emotionally, they may not always be tolerant enough. Sentiment plays an important part in our communications. It should be the catalyst for all relationships, for how people choose to communicate.

When we come to understand the tone behind someone's words, we can understand the attitude, the opinion and the emotions expressed. It is important to understand the person behind the sentiment because then we're less likely to jump to the wrong conclusions about them, or for them to jump to the wrong conclusions, about us.

For the future, more of us should come to understand and capture the broad range of emotions expressed by each of us. Society and the world badly need it.

Ilana Estelle is a mental health and wellbeing advocate who combines educational insight with her personal experience of living with physical, mental, and emotional disabilities. She holds diplomas in Counselling, Diet and Nutrition, Nutritional Therapy, Psychotherapy and Counselling, and Stress Management. Through her writing, Ilana supports others in navigating their emotional, mental, and physical health challenges. In addition to writing for The CP Diary, her work has appeared in healthy lifestyle magazines. Ilana is also the author of three books: Cerebral Palsy: A Story – Finding the Calm After the Storm, Spirituality, Healing and Me, and Survival: The Covid Years – Time for Change.

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4 comments on “Sentiments behind the words”

  1. It's all about learning to listen properly and a willingness to communicate which few exhibit and yet our relationships would be the better for it, as you rightly said.

    1. Thanks. Yes, we tend to take what we have and who we have it with for granted. We also communicate in a way that serves us, with our minds on other things.

      When we communicate we communicate to respond, rather than listen and understand people's sentiments behind what they say and why they say it. We'd all benefit and they'd be less fallings out.

  2. Certain communication methods trigger my senses, to either be on guard or relax; I guess midlife wisdom has much to do with that.

    1. Thanks Tim. Yes, certain communications will always trigger certain senses, you're right but I also think our experiences, particularly bad experiences teach us that.

      We tend to be on our guard with certain people depending on our experiences with them. I've had it in my life too.

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