There comes a point when you realise not every relationship is worth maintaining, saving and boundaries need to be in place. You learn that setting boundaries and/or cutting people out of your life means you respect yourself enough to know when it's time to act, to put distance between you. If this is happening to you – you may feel guilty about the idea of distancing yourself – that is not a betrayal or a sign of weakness. It's about being true to you – and loving yourself.

Your Emotional Wellbeing is Important

You also come to realise that your peace of mind and emotional wellbeing are more important than trying to keep everyone happy. What happens when the very people you’re there for, are the ones draining your energy, and who are constantly bringing negativity into your life? It is important to ask yourself whether you're valuing your own needs, or you're more concerned about what those others will think.

Not all relationships are healthy

Boundaries are important and if you decide to cut someone out of your life – it isn't a decision taken lightly, but it is necessary. It's about recognising that some relationships have gone the distance, they have become or have always been toxic, and no amount of effort will change that. It's important to let go of relationships that no longer serve or add value. It's an act of self-respect.

Take control of your own happiness

When you put boundaries in place, or you choose to remove yourself, you're taking control. Life is short, it is important to surround yourself with people who uplift you, support you and encourage your emotional and spiritual growth. It is important to be in relationships where there is understanding and mutual respect. If you haven’t got that then perhaps it is time to let go. Letting go doesn't mean you stop caring, letting go simply means you value yourself and your mental health more.

Choose to prioritise your mental health

For me, self-respect and boundaries mean recognising my worth and refusing to cave in to people who care less about me. It's about choosing to prioritise my own mental and emotional health over the obligation of maintaining toxic relationships. Being open, honest and transparent is also important. The more you practice healthy relationships, the more you will attract relationships – ones that are based on mutual respect.

Conclusion

In the end, if you have to cut people out of your life – it isn't about them; it's about you. It's about ensuring that you’re creating an environment where you can thrive. It's about attending to your own needs and setting boundaries that protect your well-being. That isn't selfish that is self-care.