Having cerebral palsy meant that I would always get to see and understand flaws and wouldn't so much need to settle on perfection. I am comfortable with its concept.
When things aren’t perfect they’re even more special. That when we're chasing perfection we’re telling ourselves everything needs to be perfect, or our lives aren’t perfect, that in some way we have to make it so.
Life isn’t perfect, or about being perfect, so why do things in our lives need to be perfect? We should learn to settle on things that are less than that and be happy about it.
I use to be a perfectionist. I was so bad that even the eating utensils had to be in a certain way in the drawer they were stored in. I got upset if people moved things out of order. My sister-in-law said I was anal!! I guess I was.
Since becoming a mom to two children and now with my third child I've learned that things aren't going to be perfect and I'm okay with it. I'm not constantly rearranging things. I let things go but I still keep a nice clean home as much as possible with a young son and husband!
When I was growing up my mom would do housework on Saturdays and my sister and I would have our certain chores that we would have to do to help her nd she was on us to keep our room clean often. I think I picked up the cleaning routine from her.
She wasn't obsessive but just liked things neat. I've really gotten away from that and just let things be. We are all happier that way. My home doesn't have to look like a museum. It looks like a home should, lived in.
I also useD to be more attentive to my looks, wearing makeup all the time and having everything just so. Now I don't wear makeup all the time (hardly ever really) and since I'm at home most of the time I wear comfortable clothes. It's hard to keep up with a 5 year old when you're wearing nice clothes.
And I can't change my husband. He is the total opposite of me. Always has been. He's a little better than he used to be (a little neater) and that's okay with me now.
As long as a person is happy with their lives that is all that counts; also to love someone and have them love you in return.
I think those two things are the most important in life.
I agree with you Randy, being happy with our lives is and has to be the most important thing, but it has to be without some of the trappings like having to have perfection in our lives.
You're right Lisa, we can be neat but don't have to be obsessively neat; we can also be tidy but don't need to be obsessively tidy. We have to find what works for us.
We can apply that of course to other areas of our life too. You seem a lot happier and that's what matters.
I agree, there is no such thing as perfection and the sooner we learn to accept that, the happier we can be.
I believe that too. We will always be happier when we don't try to seek perfection.